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Kristin

Note from client following a session with her 13 year old son: Thank you, Vanessa. I think I have to read your notes like a million more times. I think I was fearful I was going to get this email that blamed us and our short-temperedness for the entire situation. Being able to see all those positive things our son thinks about us was eye-opening. We are ready to take the direction. We are ready to shift and see what happens.
Mom of 13 year old and 16 year old

Barbara

Vanessa's session notes are VERY powerful. Her mission and passion are soooo clear. She makes it safe for us as parents to make errors, but also calls us to a higher purpose which is what we want in the first place. I KNEW she was good from what I had heard from my friend who referred me to Vanessa, but WOW. I'm so grateful for her. I have seen openings with my 11 year old son that I may not have ever gotten a glimpse if it weren't for her session with him and follow up with me. His cooperation is up. His attitude has improved- all the things I was concerned about turned out to be symptoms of us not really being as connected as I knew we could be. 
Mom of 11 year old and 14 year old

Anita- About The Book

Thank you for this book! I see so many nuggets of wisdom, love the real life examples, and the easy style of writing. I am excited to move from MEAN to CLEAN.
Mom of 18 year old

Tina- About The Book

From MEAN to REAL CLEAN is filled with common sense advice and practical tools for immediate use in your relationship with your teenager. Baker wonderfully illustrates her points with humor, truth, her own parenting successes and failures and relatable stories of her clients' parenting experiences. This book will open your eyes and your heart and start the process for the relationship you've been seeking with your teenager. Two thumbs up! 
Mom of 3 Tween/Teens

A, 18

I love you! Thank you for always being there for me. I know it’s kinda your job but I truly believe you care and want to be there for me and honestly want what’s best for me. We’ve known each other for only a little while now but you mean a lot to me already and you’re like family. I’m not used to sharing this much, but it’s how I feel. You’re like the cool aunt I never had (I have an aunt but I never see or talk to her, not bashing on her cause she is cool and I love her) ANYWAYS lol. I can’t wait to see what we can do together, I’m really grateful for you; I’m so glad my dad found you lol. I can’t WAIT to meet in person too, idk when that will be but I can’t wait for it. I accept that you will have to be on my ass and possibly make me want to never talk to you again, but that’s exactly what I need because I’ve never allowed someone to do that for me. I need you to be on my ass because I know I can’t get myself to lol, so thank you. I love you for that! I love how strong you are, I look up to you! You’ve opened my eyes to so many things I can’t wait to see what kind of person you’ll help me become.

Amanda

Vanessa has a gift of being able to delve into the core of issues. Whether you are at the end of your rope and feeling hopeless with your teen, or just want to improve the relationship, I promise you that she can lend new insight to this process. Vanessa is able to build authentic trusting relationships with teens and help families mend without shaming or guilt. I first met Vanessa in 2006 at a conference where her goal was to make a difference in other’s lives and help them see their potential. She has continued that mission but has honed it in to reflect her experience with teens and families. She is very real, raw, open, and lives what she speaks. Vanessa understands blended families, complicated situations, parenting challenges and teen emotions/development because she has lived it and has taken her experiences to create a positive impact for others. We have a household of teens and as hard as I try as a parent, there are some situations that benefit from having a different perspective. I am not a perfect parent and we don’t have perfect teens.. there is no such thing. It’s messy at times, but I know I want to provide the healthiest environment possible where my children can grow and utilizing Vanessa’s insight is helping along that road.
Mom of five teens

Sasha

I discovered her one night on FB when I was researching some issues with my then 15 year old son. She was immediately responsive and got the ball rolling on working on these issues. Turns out…interestingly…that after her talk with my son.. she suggested that she talk with me… and that was the ticket. Sometimes it seems like if the other person just did X, Y or Z it would all be better only to realize that the work has to come from within. A novel idea. However, I also have to point out that my son asked one day when he was struggling with some issues.. if I could set up another conversation with Vanessa. You could tell he felt instantly safe in their relationship and respected her opinion. Big sigh of relief. I am proud to say the lines of communication are open again with my son, and our relationship is at a much more harmonious point. So grateful. Thank you Vanessa!
Mom of 13 year old and 16 year old

Mike

Vanessa is such a positive influence on our whole family. She has a great way of breaking down/creating awareness about so many of the silly rules that we hold ourselves and our kids to while at the same time providing solutions that work. Whether it’s your teen, parenting, relationships or career Vanessa helps you navigate a better path.
Dad of 12 year old and 14 year old

Ames

I refer to myself often as a mother, a wife, a sister, an employee or a friend. I am all those things - but, much more than that. Vanessa has helped me silent my internal Vanessa has also worked with my family members to address their obstacles. She has an uncanny ability to meet each person where they are and without judgement. In regards to tough customers, I would qualify teenagers to be top of the list. She was able to disarm my teenager, engage her and help her see her internal potential. That's a tall order. I appreciate her attentive listening and follow up notes after each session. The notes are invaluable - so helpful to refer back to. She is a lovely human being with the best interest of her clients at heart. We have all gained greater insight from working with Vanessa!
Mom of 14 year old

B, 14

Vanessa has been such a huge help for me with home life, school and really in general. I have become more open-minded to new ideas to better my mental health and life at home.

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